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When parenting teens, keep calm and don鈥檛 carry on

In a new study, Rochester psychologists found that mothers and fathers who were less capable of dampening down their anger are more likely to resort to harsh discipline aimed at their teens, and that fathers in particular were not as good at considering alternative explanations for their teens' behavior. (Getty Images photo)

The field of adolescent psychology is increasingly focused on parents, with researchers asking how mothers and fathers control themselves (and their rising anger) in difficult interactions with their children. As anyone who has raised a teenager knows, parental goals often don鈥檛 exactly align with those of the child. Sometimes, not even close.

鈥淒iscipline issues usually peak during toddlerhood and then again during adolescence, because both periods are really marked by exploration and figuring out who you are, and by becoming more independent,鈥 says , a professor of psychology and dean of graduate studies in Arts, Sciences & Engineering at the 人妻少妇专区.

Yet the developmental changes during puberty and the transition to adolescence mean that parents necessarily need to adjust their parenting behaviors, she adds. Part of that adjustment is parents鈥 ability to think on their feet and navigate conflicts with flexibility as their teens strive for more autonomy and greater input in the decision-making processes. Sturge-Apple is the lead author of a as well as hostile parenting during their child鈥檚 early adolescence. The study is published in the journal Development and Psychopathology.

The research was sparked by an obvious deficit: more than 99 percent of parent regulation studies have focused exclusively on mothers. In this study, Sturge-Apple and her colleagues鈥, professor of psychology at Rochester; a postdoctoral fellow at the University鈥檚 ; 聽’14 (PhD), now an assistant professor of educational psychology at the University of Nebraska; and Rochester psychology graduate student 鈥攍ooked at how mothers and fathers regulated their stress in response to conflict with their adolescent children. They then examined how the stress response affected their discipline of the child. The researchers measured parents鈥 physiological regulation using 聽a widely used measure to assess heart rate variability. The laboratory-based assessments were spaced roughly one year apart.

Dads are more likely than moms to think that their teen was being intentionally difficult, or 鈥渏ust trying to push buttons.鈥

The researchers found that those parents鈥攂oth mothers and fathers鈥攚ho were less capable of dampening down their anger, as measured by RMSSD, were more likely to resort, over time, to the use of harsh, punitive discipline and hostile conflict behavior vis-脿-vis their teenager.

The scientists also measured parents鈥 set-shifting capacity鈥攖hat is, the parents鈥 ability to be flexible and to consider alternative factors, such as their child鈥檚 age and development.

鈥淪et shifting is important because it allows parents to alter flexibly and deliberately their approaches to handling the changeable behaviors of their children in ways that help them to resolve their disagreements,鈥 says Davies.

On average, fathers were not as good as mothers at set shifting and were less able to control their physiological anger response. As a result, they were more likely to think that their teen was intentionally difficult, or 鈥渏ust trying to push buttons,鈥 which in turn guided their decisions about discipline.

However, the researchers found that those fathers who were better at set shifting than others were also better able to counteract difficulties in physiological regulation. These聽episodes of physiological dysregulation, the team discovered, predicted over time an increase in parents鈥 angry responses鈥攁nd that essentially, set shifting offsets this angry response tendency.

鈥淎s we learn more, these findings may have important implications for building and refining parenting programs,鈥 says Davies. 鈥淔or example, there are exercises that help increase physiological regulation in ways that may ultimately reduce hostile parenting behaviors for mothers and fathers.鈥

There鈥檚 an irony in past research studies鈥 almost exclusive focus on mothers.

鈥淒ads are typically the enforcer in the family and this role may be difficult to override,鈥 says Sturge-Apple.聽鈥淭hus, the ability to be flexible in responses may help dads, more than moms, adjust to the changes of adolescence.鈥

The research, which included 193 fathers, mothers, and their young teenagers (aged 12 to 14), was conducted at the University鈥檚 Mt. Hope Family Center, which recently garnered an unrelated 聽to establish a national center to study child abuse and prevention.

The research for this study was funded by a grant from the