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If Mirga Kerbelis Bablin 鈥�66 were alive today, there鈥檚 no doubt in the minds of any of her eight children: she would have wanted to celebrate the 50th anniversary of her graduation.

Mirga graduated nearly 20 years after she鈥檇 last stepped foot on campus, yet she wasn鈥檛 about to miss commencement. Completing her Rochester degree altered the course of her life, and the lives of her large family. 鈥淚t鈥檚 a pretty inspirational story,鈥� says Mirga鈥檚 youngest son, Christopher Bablin, who was not yet born at the time.

Mirga鈥檚 oldest daughter, Mary Abbott, remembers graduation day. 鈥淲hen the time came for Mom to graduate in June of 1966, it was a big family affair with Dad, the seven kids, and Mom鈥檚 parents in attendance,鈥� Mary writes in an essay entitled 鈥淎 Model Mom.鈥� After morning Mass and Communion at home in Amsterdam, New York, the family piled into two cars and made the three-hour drive in time for Mirga to attend a preceremony luncheon in the women鈥檚 dining hall. Then the family sat in the bleachers of Fauver Stadium and watched as she walked across the makeshift platform, pregnant with Christopher, to claim her degree.

The oldest child of Lithuanian immigrants, Mirga graduated as salutatorian of her high school class in 1942. Two scholarships鈥攐ne from Rochester and the other from New York State鈥攅nabled her to enroll in the College for Women that fall. Mirga kept a diary of her early months and years at school, in which she expressed the full range of emotions typical for young adults adjusting to life away from home. As Mary writes, Mirga filled its pages with stories of 鈥渟orority sisters, many handsome dates, the stresses of study, plus missing her mom, dad, and brothers.鈥�

Yet for reasons that remain a mystery to the family, Mirga would abandon the five-year nursing program in which she was enrolled, just short of graduation. In 1947, she moved back home. A year or so later, she married a veteran of World War II, Edward Bablinskas (the name was later shortened to Bablin).

Mirga spent the 1950s and early 1960s as a mother and housewife, supplementing the family income with occasional part-time work. The woman who鈥檇 been an achiever in the classroom was no less determined to excel in the home. In an autobiography she wrote for her family in 1983, she recalled that she鈥檇 raised her children 鈥渨ith such zeal and dedication, I wonder, now, how I did it. Aside from the routine tasks of diapers and bottles, I sewed my own clothes, slipcovers, curtains, and drapes, and became a proficient canner and outstanding cook.鈥�

Meanwhile, Edward鈥檚 career floundered. He struggled in various jobs, and after she gave birth to their seventh child, Mirga decided she had to finish her degree. Borrowing money from her extended family, she took night classes in nearby Troy, transferring her credits to Rochester in time to graduate with the Class of 1966.

Christopher grew up knowing how important her achievement had been. 鈥淚 like to think that I walked across that stage with my mom,鈥� he says. He doesn鈥檛 believe his mother was ever satisfied with where she had left things in 1947.

鈥淚 don鈥檛 think she was happy with the June Cleaver type of thing,鈥� he says. The family was also struggling. 鈥淲hen she got her college degree, it really changed the whole trajectory of our family.鈥�

Her children note that at the height of the feminist movement of the 1970s, Mirga combined characteristics that conventional wisdom held at odds. She was a devout Catholic and raised her children accordingly. She was conservative in her values and her politics. Yet she not only worked outside the home; she reveled in her job as a technical writer for the New York State Department of Criminal Justice.

鈥淢y mother had a very rewarding career,鈥� says Christopher. In 1973, Mirga transferred to the Department of Mental Hygiene, where she worked until 1990. She died in 2007.

鈥淲hen I was growing up, my father was the one going to my parent-teacher conferences,鈥� Christopher says. He suspects she would have liked to attend more school events, but accepted that trade off. As Mirga wrote herself, her degree launched an important new chapter.

鈥淒oors were suddenly opened to me, and I soon started to combine the best of both worlds.鈥� 鈥擪aren McCally 鈥�02 (PhD)锘匡豢